Otaku women would like to get married, but fear rejection

Recently, a famous Japanese magazine aimed at women shared an article pointing out the difficulty otaku women have in finding someone for life.

The article says that the big problem for these women is the intense fear of rejection and, as a result, they choose to postpone the search for a partner until it is too late to do so.

The article brings us a testimony from Ai Tanaka, a marriage counselor who claims to have gotten married after dating more than 600 men over a ten-year period, spending more than 7 million yen on dating services.

Now through her work, she has supported over 1000 men and women in their relationships every year, specifically in serious marriage experiences.

There are women who don’t really want to get married, but would if there was a good person around. And that’s where our character ”Sachiko” comes in, a fake name to cover up the identity of the real person, she is a 43-year-old woman, an employee of a company who has never participated in a matchmaking service.

And she finally took courage and signed up for a marriage dating agency, but her activities weren’t progressing much, which caught the consultancy’s attention.

The woman who goes by the name Sachiko hasn’t always been interested in romance and has never been invited out for a drink, so the last time she had a boyfriend was when she was a college student.

However, she said that she wanted to get married because she wanted to have children and that she had recently signed up to a dating agency: ”I signed up about three weeks ago, but I haven’t officially requested a session with any man interested in me yet. I have a job and I have difficulty finding time to dedicate myself to these activities. I get tired when I go back to work during the week and want to relax on the weekends, so I don’t feel like engaging in marital activities”

But when the consultant reviewed her file, it was discovered that she does have time to do the things she likes, like going to anime events, her biggest hobby. For this reason, suspicions were raised about his attitude of wanting to get married but not making any effort to find a partner: ”Somehow, I feel that even if I ask, it won’t work anyway. Maybe I don’t want to see the reality of being rejected by a man,” said Sachiko

Trying to find a partner can be quite a challenge for many otaku women in Japan because there is the whole issue of fear of rejection and weakening the courage to act in the field of love.

Signing up to marriage agencies or even starting to use dating apps and thinking that you will find a partner immediately is nothing more than an illusion.

If you really want to get married, what should you do? Our dear Sachiko is aware of this that if you continue to deviate from reality, your current situation will not change in a few years. Perhaps then you will get older and find yourself in a more difficult situation in your married life.

Upon hearing this, Sachiko said: ”I don’t want that. I don’t want to die alone”, and she got emotional. If she can convert this emotion into energy for her married life, she will definitely progress.

But the question is how long she can sustain this emotion. If she returns to her usual comfortable life and no longer thinks about the future, her enthusiasm will diminish and you will lose energy to continue with your marital activities.

There are many ”Sachikos” in Japan. There are people who want to get married, but unconsciously cannot continue with their marital activities for fear of experiencing a reality they don’t want to see or a feeling they don’t want to feel. However, this will not help them at all. If you really want to get married, I think the most effective way is to challenge yourself, so it’s not a bad idea to stimulate your daily life by challenging yourself with marital activities.

via SPA Feminine